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“Relationship Problems”

By ATWadmin On November 6th, 2006

Natashia Jackman was stabbed in the eye at her school, Collingwood Colllege in Camberley, Surrey. During a catalogue of abuse including being knocked unconscious in class and cumulating in the stabbing incident, the school did next to nothing, in fact they made her feel that she was to blame. According to her father “it was as if the school was saying, ‘We don’t want to admit there’s a problem with bullying in our school.” Headmaster, Jerry Oddie, described the incident as "isolated". He told reporters: "Natashia has had relationship problems in the time that she’s been with us.”

In the school’s newsletter of December 2005 is an article on “National Anti-Bullying Week

“There have been several initiatives and activities around College, in order to raise awareness of this very important topic. These include: Special talks in assemblies about what can constitute bullying, and what students can do about it … a poster competition … a wristband campaign to raise awareness of the subject … the launch of the new Peer Counsellor system … Remember, if you know or suspect that someone may be being bullied, doing the right thing involves telling someone about it.

Empty, hollow words for Natashia. Much as children do not appreciate being disciplined, it is the children who suffer when that discipline is neglected and, as nature abhors a vacuum, the place of the stern teacher is taken by the school bully. Civilised behaviour is not the default setting, it must be learned, inculcated and enforced, otherwise you fall back to the law of the jungle.

9 Responses to ““Relationship Problems””

  1. You’re quite right Richard – and too many schools take this slovenly attitude.

  2. Indeed. This Headmaster doesn’t even possess the language to describe the situation, much less deal with it.

  3. I once took drastic steps to deal with a bully. I followed him after school to the nearby bus station. Then I pushed him to the ground while his back was turned and gave him a vicious kicking (not on the head!) with a pair of heavy work boots.

    Needless to say an 18 year old getting the crap kicked out of him by a weedy 14 year old was enough to ensure I was never bullied again, mainly since I humiliated him in front of his girlfriend and his pals.

    My lesson is this bullies CANNOT take their own medicine. I took the law into my own hands since my bully was one of the well connected crowd at the school and therefore the school did nothing to protect me. Which sounds like what happened here.

  4. SBK,

    your lesson is the truth that dare not speak it’s name in schools. They cannot condone people sticking up for themselves (for understandable reasons I guess) and always encourage such issues to be brought to their attention – and then do nothing.

    A nephew of mine’s been having issues, and I’ve told him only he can judge it, but if it goes to far and he has to take similar action to what you suggest, I’ll at least reward him for it, even if he gets into trouble.

  5. I take your point about bullying the bully – and it works. However, there are some kids for whom this course of action is impossible. The fact that for them this is impossible is often related to why they are bullied in the first place. These kids need protection and schools/teachers do not always provide this.

    Head teachers and others can identify these children with ease but often turn a blind eye.

  6. All bullies are intrinsically cowards!

    Long time back, I faced down a clown who used to delight in crushing smaller opponents with his massive arms and strength! In front of all his sychophantic friends, I told him plainly that I might not be able to beat him with strength, but I promised to break him in criminal court, and again in civil court, and I would ensure that he never worked down a mine again!

    Result; he never touched my mates again! It didn’t need a ‘Poster competition’, it needed someone to stand up and be counted!

  7. Remember – this is an important part of a child’s ‘socialization’. They really need to know that wearing a wristband and drawing a picture is the preferred way to deal with a threat. They learn that self defense is a no-no. Further, being abused is their own fault.

  8. lol I though the above was posted by someone like Jo in seriousness, until I seen Monica had posted it sarcastically!

  9. I am so glad you knew that I was being sarcastic, AE. 🙂