I wanted to go to my home after my sister committed suicide, and I was told by my mother that I was not allowed to be seen near the house, that I was not welcome at the funeral; and that I must realise that, to my father, my mother and my family; I was dead.
These were the words of a young, well-educated Indian woman who espoused the Sikh faith, broadcast when she was the ‘castaway’ on Desert Island Discs. She had been told at the age of eight that she was to marry a man whom she had never seen, because it was the wish of her family, and when she ran away from home at the age of fourteen, she was disowned and shunned. She has since gained a first-class education, started a charity which campaigns against so-called honour killings, which are of course simply murders by another name, and married the man of her own choosing.
But the first record she chose was some Indian ‘pop’ production which reminded her of her father, and of the ‘culture’ in which she had grown up. The same culture which applauds the murder of a child who rebels against the ‘honour culture’. The same ‘culture’ which forced her sister into suicide.
I just do not understand the mindset of these people!